Lynch, J.R,(2004) When Anger Scares Yo, California: New Harbinger Publications

This book is concerned with getting over fear of conflict and finding healthy ways to express anger. Primarily of interest to anger avoiders who have more difficulty connecting with their anger, distinguishing them from “exploders” who have more difficulty containing it. Lynch distinguishes between anger which he sees as a constructive energy and rage which he sees as violence annihilating the opposition. I am not sure I agree with this construction but his discussion of threat and non-violent response is powerful. This book offers many case studies which illustrate how those frightened of their anger and conflict have overcome their fears and found healthy ways to engage. Besides promoting emotional literacy, much of the book is devoted to understanding how people become anger avoiders and how they can overcome self limiting beliefs that prevent them from accessing and utilising the positive energy of anger. The great strength of the book is in the stories and practical guidance and there is a useful discussion of anger and gender difference. A worthwhile read for anger avoiders and those who work with them.