Some Questions for Re-evaluating Beliefs

• Select a recurring conflict that continues to have an unsatisfactory outcome.

• What is it about the conflict and the outcomes that are unsatisfactory?

• What beliefs might you hold about the world/your situation, yourself, the person(s) with whom are in conflict, and your relationship with them, that are influencing the conflict?

• Which beliefs are helping or hindering and how do they impact the conflict?

• What evidence or observations suggest that a selected belief might be invalid or dysfunctional and needs to be re-evaluated?

• What is the strategy and action driven by this belief?

• In contrast - what kinds of beliefs do you hold in peaceful or constructive relationships and situations and how are these different?

• What is it about the dysfunctional belief that may need to be re-evaluated, changed or adjusted in your conflict scenario?

• What is the new formulation of the belief that would better match current reality and support constructive action?

• What would that belief suggest or look like in terms of strategy and action?

• How well does it work when you test it in action?